You may have heard of that phrase from A Course in Miracles. That phrase is to make you think? Is arguing my point so important that I will ruin relationships in the process? Why can’t I have both?
There are so many other ways to look at that phrase in our everyday life.
This was an example of wanting to hold on to the annoyance of what happened for long enough to get my point across – but in the process, I failed to see a workable solution! I could have both actually – but it needed me to step away from that place for a while and look at the larger picture. The workable answer or solution was not long in coming.
I still get to put my point across without all the angst that was there originally. My behaviour no longer depends on a response or lack of one. It’s a great place to be!
I can extrapolate that with an urban legend quote:
“Resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”
Replace resentment with any negative emotion directed at someone else – anger, jealousy etc. If you look closely, it hurts you more! It applies to most situations where you feel it is “My way or the highway.”
Take a step back and create a win-win situation for both of you, but especially for you – it decreases your stress! By now, you do know there are many ways to do most – you don’t have the patent on it.
If you develop the ability to look in at yourself and your behaviour or reaction to someone else when you are annoyed, you can still come out putting your point across (in a non-threatening manner) and being happy.
It’s really the best of both worlds.